Thursday, January 27, 2011

When your mate wants to talk do you listen?

When your mate wants to talk do you listen? Listening is one of the most important thing in building a good and last relationship. Whatever your partner wants to say something, even if its just a story telling about sports, news, or about his/her work experience for that day or just a none sense talk, its important that you extend your ear to him/her and listen. Listening means giving your attention to others even the topic is interesting or not. I'm sure you will get annoyed too if you talk and talk while no one's listen.

My husband and I have a good communication and listening skills. Whenever he got home from work, I always asked him, how is he and how's his day? Then he start to talk and I just listen. Sometimes the answer is just brief but the important thing is you listen. Often times, before we sleep, while laying down to bed, we make a conversations about everything. A laugh and exchanging ideas are a proof that you both listening and enjoying it. It is mostly needed to avoid misunderstanding that leads to quarrels and sometimes ends to a broken relationship.

Listening is not just important when somebody is saying a happy thoughts. It is more important when you listen to someone who is under a difficulty. That way you can share whats in your mind, that could help them on their dilemma.

There are saying that, "Being a talker doesn't mean you are a clever. An intelligent person do lots of listening than talking."

Our God listen and always willing to listen whatever you want to tell Him or wherever you wanted to say it. The reason why there's an answered prayer because He hears it, He listen. The same thing He wanted us to do. Listen! :)

Tuesday, January 25, 2011


When a friend decided to go back in the Philippines from working abroad, everybody was astonished. Everyone knows that she's been out of the country for only two months, she has a good employer in Singapore, and she has a very good salary. What went wrong? Why did she preferred to go back and stay to her own family though they are still struggling from deep poverty?

"I missed my family!" I still cant forget the way she said that, no doubts, no regrets at all.

Homesick defines for acutely longing for one's family or home... For sure that's what she meant. And I think I'm struggling with that feeling too at this moment...

When I decided to went here (USA) I know I'm gonna miss my family, my home. Actually I am ready to face it, but I didn't know it'll gonna be this kind of pain, I miss them terribly...

For many years of existing, this is my first time to be apart from them (as in million miles apart). Maybe that's the reason why until now, I'm still not get used of it. Living in a quiet place right now is far from the place where I used to live for 28 years. Its peaceful yet it seems more disrupting. The stillness sometimes makes you go insane! Plus being different from the way you look (color of hair and skin), and you talk, sometimes frustrating. Yeah I am an alien in the place where I prefer to be with the man I hooked up.

Its not that I have regrets of getting here. First of all no one's provoke me to went here, just my own self. Its my own will to be with the man I truly love and its a pleasure to be with him forever. My husband is a gift from heaven, and he loves me as much as I love him, he cares as much as I care, and he feel the way I feel. He always makes me smile and laugh... He is a truly blessing... But we must admit, the happiness that your husband can give is different from the happiness that your family could give. Maybe it has the same amount but its different, its just different... I just wish we could live this life together, more closer, I bet it would be more joyful and pleasant.

"God, make me a stronger person as you want me to be. Make me appreciate more every little things that you gave me. Be with me always and hold my hands as I tread the winding road of life. May you guide and bless me always and forever!"... I've uttered this simple prayers as I stopped and closed my eyes...

I realize God never failed to planned your own happiness. We have to celebrate life with gratefulness because even we're all far apart , there is the Lord who is there to cheer you up and become your family.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Do I have to be somebody to be cool?

I am a person who easily appreciate how beautiful and kind a person is. I am a person who could easily get along even if you are a Richy rich, in a middle class or none of the two. I love fashion and even I don't afford all the latest fashion trends, I could make my own fashion statement, well maybe just not as cool as the others.

I appreciate how Lady Gaga do her style, weird but cool! Or Taylor Swift sweet and innocent look. They are all famous, and as I noticed even in shopping malls or in a small streets, if they saw you wears a cool clothes, or stuffs, lots people will like you, and some might wanted to be your friend... I admit I love making friends and would love to have lots of friends. But do I have to be like them to attract people? to be noticeable? Do I have to be somebody to be cool?

Hmm... I don't know, but one thing I'm certain, I love me, I love being myself!

As I remember, even in my youngest days, I never tried to be somebody. Becoming a fan of some people is good but I think trying to replicate them is unpleasant (respect to others who disagree!)... God made us in our own unique special way. You might wonder why your husband love you even if you're not very pretty and sexy, and even you look like "tindera sa palengke", hehehe... Most people judge you the way you look but I still believe if you take off your mask and let people see what you wanted them to see you, more and more people will appreciate you.

Don't try to live your life trying hard to become someone so that someone will love you back. In fact someone will love you back when you start loving your self. Indeed no one will love you forever just your own, because you alone could stay for yourself when everybody couldn't.

So start saying "I love me, cause Jesus loves me!". :)

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Being Married: A fruitful stage of life.

As I continue appreciating the beauty of life, I suddenly find my self smiling. Indeed, surrounding by people who loves you is so overwhelming...

Being married is not as easy as I expected. Especially when you marry a guy from different country, with different language, belief and culture. I admit we still have hard times sometimes adjusting some differences. He like doing things that I don't like and I love some things that he doesn't like. But in spite of all those things, we still love each other and find some things weird but cute. I realize, why focus on your differences when you also have lots of similarities?
I am almost four months married now, and as I always say, I am happy and contented. We just have a simple life, but we are rich in love for each other. And to tell you, we already have millions of sweet, simple moments that I appreciate and will always cherish while heading the road of married life.

... a sweet smile after a deep conversation always lifts up your mood.
... a hug and kisses after he found out that you're not feeling well.
... a gentle touch on your lap while he is busy driving.
... a laughter after we tried to sing and dance together even though we are not very good in it, hahaha!
... a wink and hidden tease on a public places.
... a knock on a window just for you to pay attention on him while mouthing the words "I love you".
... a quick kisses while we're on the road.
... an embraces while watching a movie on a couch.
... spending together washing the dishes.
... chatting at different computer while you two are at the same house.
... appreciating what I have cooked even though for me it doesn't  really taste good.
... a massage at night even though he's tired from work.
... a conversation with kisses and hugs before we sleep and before we get up in bed.
... the way he gently comb my hair.
... a shower together.
... a look as if you are the most sexiest woman in the world.

Those are just some of the things that keep us going everyday. Yes, life is hard, but you can make it easy and extravagant even in a simple way... I realize, being married is one fruitful stage of life.

The life that you had now is a choice that you've made. Its just a matter of accepting things the way it should be, and embracing all the ups and downs the future might brought you in your journey of life together. After all, God didn't give up and will never give up on you... Stay happy and inlove! :)

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Thank You God for everything!

As I reminisce all the things that happened to me last year, theres no reason to frown at all. God Yahweh and papa Jesus has always been good and will always be good to me, I know, in the the coming days and future. He never bring me down, even though sometimes I lose my faith, they we're always there to bring it back and to make me realize that every single little things that happen to my life has its own exact reason. They love me even though I forgot to do things that I usually do (pray always, read the bible everyday, go to church every sunday). Even sometimes I failed Him, I know He still care and didn't let me go to my journey of life alone.
"Thank you God for everything!"
as I always say everyday, because I know He's just there, always ready in any way, any how, any where we need HIM...
I love you Lord God with all my heart and soul! <3